Black Love Relationship Empowerment

Women tend to play themselves a lot when it comes to the dating/relationship game. Often times we tend to put up with foolishness that we should not have to put up with but ultimately settle for the constant drama that men throw our way. As women we are not shelters and are not obligated to allow stray dogs to lay and sleep in our homes when in all actuality they do not deserve it. Its becoming an issue that needs to be dealt with. Men are constantly being rewarded for their wrong doings which in essence only perpetuates the tolerance for their inadequacies. I have always been an advocate of black men doing better when it comes to relationships however its time that black women also step up to the plate. Maybe if we as women demand that that black men do better they too will be on the level we expect them to be on.
And when I say this I don't mean to exclude myself, because I too have some growth to do in this area of my life. However, some of the relationship issues that I see black women deal with, I for one could not put up with. Granted I am only 23, however I am very conscious of the lessons that I am currently learning through my experiences and those of others, which I hope will mold my relationships tomorrow. Its really upsetting to have to hear the stories of the relationship trials that women often put themselves in and whom frequently have the audacity to point fingers at their counterparts when in fact they (women) are the problem. We as women must also hold ourselves accountable for our actions and decisions in relationships. If we allow men to verbally, physically, or emotionally (i.e. cheat)abuse us and completely disregard any respect for us, WE are the problem because we TOLERATE it. God gave us a brain to think with, so use it. He also gave us feet to walk out of situations which are not beneficial to our being so use them. I understand that women think more with our hearts than we do with our minds, but when this way of living becomes a debauchery to our being, it has to re-assessed. The purpose of the heart is to feel, not to think, it has become convention that we think with our hearts, when its with or minds that we NEED to think. I can't remember where I heard this from... but this statement holds to be very true-the minute we as women as a whole increase our standards so will men. Men respect women who respect themselves. Its not that there is lack of good men out there, the problem is that there is too much tolerance of the men who are not doing right by black women.

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